So, you think, “I tend to find myself in these situations when I know that my ultimate goal is to marry a Muslim.Because there’s nothing higher than a spiritual relationship and a true spiritual connection. And it’s important for me to know that, in the good times, we’re pulling from the same spiritual toolbox.“I was, but then I got off, because I met somebody in real life and then I just really — I missed the excitement that comes with meeting somebody face-to-face.I wanted whatever relationship I was in to have that excitement that comes from an organic meeting, because swiping is hopeless, and it just felt very, fuck, like automated and robotic.“Part of it is like the race thing, too, which is a little hard. I’m East African and there aren’t a lot of East African Muslims on these apps.
And to know that you live in Chicago, and you’re a Black Muslim woman — you could not have a further experience from my life...“And I’m also 27! ”After being raised on a steady diet of Disney movies, I expected to meet someone and fall passionately in love — but wound up collapsing under the pressures of modern dating.
You want someone who is going to be able to enjoy sharing these experiences with you.
And as much as a Christian guy might be able to support you, they’ll never really know what you’re going through.“Exactly. But if a guy is Muslim, he’s very quick to bring it up.
And then, maybe during the third or fourth conversation, it comes up.”I just have to tell them! They just don’t know the depths and the gravity of what that means and what they’d really commit to.
I am at this point in my life where I would love to build a family and settle down. And men who are like that, you’re just like, Oh yes. I’m 27 years old, and I feel like I’ve just calibrated my fuckboy meter. If they don’t advocate dating, then what happens if you meet someone? I do want to reiterate that ‘American dating’ is totally against Islamic standards.