No one is really saying that a chips-and-salsa dinner is more important than waking up next to someone we love. Too bad we don’t do that when we’re cozy in a relationship.
It’s just that we want some wiggle room in our relationships, so we don’t feel like we’re losing too much of ourselves -- as often happens in the day-to-day marital grind. Many men complain about how their wives have packed on the pounds since their “I dos”; in fact, studies indicate both sexes gain weight after marriage but women tend to gain more.
Ask any divorced person to name the best part of their new life and it pretty much boils down to this: freedom.
You can eat chips and salsa for dinner, wear sweats all day, leave the cap off the toothpaste tube, have a boozy ESPN marathon with the guys and no one is going to give you crap about it. We may not know how or where or even if we’ll meet someone, but we sure are glammed up just in case.
If you start thinking about sex as something you may never experience again, you might be more interested in slipping into something more comfortable and dimming the lights.But if it doesn’t, it won’t be such a shocking adjustment.`Related: Why do so many married women want to join my single moms’ groups?And FYI, when you refer to yourself as a single mom you piss off a whole lot of people–people who have little or no financial help to raise their kids, or partnership that provides the emotional and logistical support that all families need. “They have no right to say that — I pay for her manicures and weekends in Cancun with her 26-year-old personal trainer boyfriend! Which leads us to examine what “single mother” really means. Depending on how you vote, a single mom is responsible for bearing fatherless criminals and living off of the taxpayer’s dime; or she is a saintly martyr for her children and a victim of a chauvinistic society that tells men it is OK to abandon their children by a male-dominated court system that let him way, way off the hook.But what if you’re living in reality and fall somewhere in between?