they break the chain of seeking a sense of OK-ness externally.
For people that haven’t yet fully realized that all of us need to be emotionally responsible (which is most people), this is where much of the pain of the breakup originates from (they blame themselves for not “measuring up”…
When a woman’s relationship ends, she mourns,” or, “He’s just hooking up with such-and-such to spite the ex-girlfriend,” or “Guys just don’t care” and other nonsense.
and therefore sets countless impossible expectations into motion.
When we believe something that is out of alignment with reality, we suffer…
Sometimes in a relationship, a guy will really, really love a girl and may start to compromise these core values.
Maybe he changes his lifestyle, stops hanging out with certain friends, or changes his habits.