Recently I went on a date with a man who purposely made the date terrible and then ended the night by saying “Okay, so are you gonna draw me now?! ” Unfortunately I’ve lost some potential clients due to the comic; some companies do not wish to be associated with the nature of my personal work.This is a tough pill to swallow, being that my personal work as an artist, and my professional work as a designer are separate worlds.Jenna, who has starred in Emmerdale and Doctor Who, has spoken fondly of working with Tom, saying: ‘It is wonderful because we are very old friends and immediately we have the same tone, the same ideas, and instantly that connection feels very strong.’She has also revealed how they became close while filming the drama last winter, and told how Tom taught her to play the piano ahead of that steamy scene.
Nowadays you swipe on a person’s face, have meaningless conversation for five days, finally meet for a drink because an actual date is too much of an investment, compare tastes in music because anything too deep would be weird, anxiously wonder if you have to split the bill or will the guy pay for it.
After reading Aziz Ansar’s book — donning the same title — about the current state of dating culture, it really got me thinking that dating really isn’t what it used to be. After getting back in the dating scene after a two-year hiatus, I had been on a slew of awful dates and it was becoming exhausting.
Swiping, creeping, dead-end conversations, the straight-up inability to talk to someone in person, finally meeting, listening to stories about exes, trying to think of ways to leave a bad date, being ghosted, ghosting, slut-shamed, rejected, stalked. Then I started to draw my experiences, turns out, a lot of people could relate and generally just thought it was funny that I was putting it out there.
But then you wait four hours to respond to them and formulate the most perfect response.
Hopefully you go on another date but don’t ruin it by doing something too intense or talking about what you actually want.