If these people are still around in a year or two and your high intensity dalliance yields into something more steady, then good for you.
However, the problem with people who fast-forward is that they can’t cope with steadiness.
Originally scheduled as a lunchtime meet, it lasted all day and into the night.
The following day she said it felt like they’d known each other for weeks instead of hours. Another friend met a guy who she was half-heartedly interested in.
In a startling number of stories, most of these people had some, if not a lot of reservations about the very person that was fast-forwarding them.
And let’s be real, it is flattering when someone seems to fancy the arse off us so much that they can’t seem to want to stop ripping off our clothes or saying we’re the best thing since sliced bread.
If you have Fast-Forwarding habits, it’s a good time to address your beliefs and attitudes about dating because you’re setting yourself up for failure.
Positive things increase your trust, dodgy stuff should have you rolling back and assessing the risk.The relationships that survive (healthily) are ones where the two people have slowed down but are in essence still the same two people that met and there isn’t a dramatic shift in character and integrity.Being confident in yourself is also about believing that there isn’t a fire – you can take enough time to get to know each other without rushing to get your pants down and make big declarations. People who tend to fast-forward can go through their cycle in a few hours (ever met an intense person online who sent you several emails, pestered you and then disappeared?You will use a number of the things that they fast-forward you with as basis to trust them with – Trust Points.It’s crucial to remember that dating is a discovery period.