This is cruel and deceitful and could lead to problems If this is a first date enquire delicately to elicit information about likes and dislikes; values and expectations; interests, dreams and aspirations At each subsequent date widen the field of your enquiry in a casual conversational manner while also imparting more information about yourself Avoid bragging and talking too much about anything, especially yourself Turn the conversation around to get your date’s views and contribution to the subject Keep the conversation light and try to have fun together Use humour, but don't overdo it Keep it clean Don’t lie to your date Ask before you smoke Non-smokers sometimes cannot abide smokers breath or are allergic to cigarette smoke Definitely don’t smoke during the meal It is bad etiquette to enforce your own rights over the comfort of others.Don’t do it Do not have unreasonable expectations of your date Remember – dignity and respect Do what is expected of you and not what you want to do Do not force intimacy.Ignore it Always reply to genuinely decent responses, even if the answer is ‘No’.Always be polite and kind, especially if the answer is ‘No’ Never be too busy to respond appropriately Reply as soon as possible. People are individuals, so, personalise your replies Aha, you have received a promising response or two and you are going to reply Start with a friendly greeting End with a friendly goodbye Use gentle humour if it is part of your personality Punctuate your statements with – (smile) (frown) (beaming) (thinking) or :-) Keep it brief, relevant, light, breezy and interesting Allow the communication to flow Do not get personal Do not trifle with anyone’s emotions Allow the friendship time to develop.Reject any websites that mess you around with links that mislead and deceive you and use hard-sell tactics.
Unfortunately, standards of honesty tend to slip when using this faceless method of communication.Do not be pushy Do not demand anything When ready, ask, do not push for a phone number or address.It might even be volunteered, if you are lucky You might talk on the phone a couple of times (the original online dating) At some point when you both feel it is time to meet in person do so Vacillating?Move on Guys usually initiate the first date or two (it is OK for the girl to initiate it if they are already good friends) after that either may do so Whoever initiates it – plan to have at least one alternative place to go to or of what to do Give the other person time to think about it and perhaps come up with other options Discuss it with dignity.This is a good opportunity to agree on who pays for what? If you are running late ring and give a new ETA Dress appropriately for the occasion. Lightly perfumed or with deodoriser/after shave Guys – open, hold open and close doors for your date (even if she is driving) It shows that you are prepared to go out of your way to be courteous to her Girls - let him, but don’t expect it Either way, be gracious about it; smile or thank him This is not the time to push your liberated female views Some other time...maybe Girls usually precede guys in the theatre, church, movies, to the table at a restaurant and most other places and guys help her to be seated - this is sophisticated dating etiquette Guys on the other hand lead the way through crowds and traffic On sidewalks, guys should walk nearest the street to 'protect’ the girl - you get the idea Compliment each other Neither one of you is perfect, there has to be something to compliment with sincerity Look for it. If you can’t find something to compliment, why are you dating this person? Practice being gracious right to the end Next time start with a cup of coffee first – just to test the water Do not abandon your date at the venue Be close and attentive or it may become your last date with that person Being attentive to your date does not mean totally excluding all others in the group or at the party Be pleasant to your date Talking down to your date or being patronising is not good etiquette Remember your manners.